Why I Deactivated My Facebook Page

Grave with thinking bubble about addiction to facebook. Vector illustration addiction concept

I had been on Facebook for several years and used it to connect with classmates/coworkers, post pics, and share various updates. Although I enjoyed “connecting” with others, it also felt overwhelming trying to like, comment, and keep up everyone’s updates. In the past, I looked at everyone’s pics and felt like I should’ve been doing the same things they were—partying, traveling, or going on dates. I decided to unsubscribe from a lot of people and kept receiving updates from others. I realized that if I wasn’t happy with myself or my life, then I should do something about it instead of feeling envious of people I barely knew.

During the past few years, I focused on discovering myself and developed a relationship with God. I continued posting updates and selfies occasionally on Facebook; I enjoyed seeing people’s updates, pics, and funny comments, but now it was becoming addictive! Whenever those notifications went off, I couldn’t wait to see who liked my post or pic. I would plan to get on Facebook for at least 30 minutes but that would turn into two hours! Sometimes being on Facebook was more entertaining than watching cable TV!

I considered deactivating or deleting my Facebook account but wasn’t sure if I should go that route. I had even deleted the app from my phone and logged out so it would help me stay off the website. This only lasted for a few days (maybe even almost a week) because when I downloaded the app again and logged in, I got sucked back in. I knew I should be doing other things (reading my bible, working on my writing, etc.) but I just couldn’t resist Facebook. Last year, I kept praying and asking God to decrease my desire for Facebook because although it was addictive and entertaining, there were some things that didn’t appeal to me:

  • Repetitive posts/memes—No matter how positive or inspirational they were, I was tired of seeing the same posts pop up every few months. I know that seeing something positive at the right moment can be helpful, but the exact same thing over and over again? It loses its effect after a while.
  • Chain letter type posts—“Share this post and God will bless you with money” or “You’re a hater/cold-hearted if you ignore this post” which may have been about a deformed child or an attractive child/woman. I hate posts that attempt to instill fear in others and people will pass it along because they’re afraid of being seen as a “bad” person. What law says you have to pass it on? How will they know if you don’t?
  • The TMI (too much information) posts—“I’m bored” or “I’m hungry.” Well, go get something to eat or find something to do. Or so-and-so checked in at the mall, restaurant, or school at 3pm. Your stalkers would know just where to find you.
  • Constant selfies—Don’t get me wrong, I loved posting selfies but there were some people who posted too many. It just screamed, “Look at me, look at me!”
  • Nosy people—I had connected with quite a few people, thinking “Maybe if I connect with them (despite their insults/gossiping, etc.), they’ll see that I’m no different than them). Why did I bother? Since I don’t talk about my life, they thought they’d see it on Facebook. Sorry, I don’t post much, either.
  • Validation—I liked seeing comments and likes on my posts and photos (who doesn’t?). Sometimes I would feel disappointed if I made a post and got a small number of likes (especially if I thought I was being witty or insightful). That’s too much wasted energy and we shouldn’t seek validation that way. It’s bad enough that I’ve been in bad relationships due to poor self-esteem; I sought validation from people who were miserable and unable to recognize my value in real life, so why should I be seeking it on Facebook? It’s a false sense of approval. Lots of people might like your status but can still tear you down behind your back.

I deactivated my account around the beginning of January; I did log back in last Friday to check a group that I’d been missing but I deactivated my account again. Since I’ve been off Facebook, I feel a lot better—I feel as if I can focus more and I just feel “free.” My life feels more peaceful and less chaotic without it. I’m working on my writing, reading books again, and reading my Bible. Of course, I could change my settings and delete some people, but staying off of Facebook feels right to me.

2 thoughts on “Why I Deactivated My Facebook Page

  1. Marcus Ampe says:

    Reading the Bible is the best way to find biblical truth and to come to see Who really is God and how to build a good relationship with God. I do hope you came to see that Jesus is the way to God and not God himself, what a lot of Facebook Groups refuse to look at or to see in the Bible. Those trinitarian people on Facebook create more hate than doing good or spreading the Good News of the Kingdom of God. Concerning that Good News of the coming Kingdom you better spend more time on reading websites which follow the Biblical doctrines and not doctrines of man.
    Good luck in your quest to God.

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